Dear precious sister, Lauren.
The obstacles of marriage every woman has and every man too. Continue serving the Lord as you do, treating everyone with love and what is meant to be will be, It is painful and not easy, seeing women come after your man...I have seen this myself with mine....but, I decided not to be haunted with this ordeal and made a decision I will share it with you. Don't know if it will help, but maybe you can gleam something.
My first husband was a flirt and womanizer. Being married to him, I felt I had to be everywhere he was to push the women away...a horrible way to live because I was afraid affairs would happen and I didn't want my marriage destroyed...well, he brought a woman into my house and slept with her and my neighbor called me and told me what was going on while I was with my
daddy in another state... we divorced. My husband had left me for Kristy McNichols cousin, Elizabeth who was an actress also. and had been having an affair with her for some time.
I felt that I wasted 7 yrs of my life trying to prevent something destined to happen anyway. Then I married another man who worked in the Motion Picture Ind. my husband of 14 yrs now. Women eye him even to this day and he is 70 yrs old...go figure..???
I made the decision I would not try to prevent an affair, but rather give him over to the women and he would either turn from them and stay with me or it would hurry the process of adultery up and it would be over quicker for me...by doing this I would be freeing myself from bondage of worrying about these things.
A decision I made after the first marriage...my husband now, he asked me in the beginning, didn't this bother me with the women...I said 'NO", because if you want them go, I don't want to be married to a man I have to compete for against other women and if he cheated on me I would be gone, that simple.
I cut the worrying out about this husband and often throw him to the Lions to see if he cares about me more than them. and he showed his love for me was greater.
I don't question him, and when I see a woman enticed with him....believe it when I tell you I walk out of the room and leave him in it..to fin for himself because it is his duty to turn them away not mine.
My encouragement to you Lauren, is when the woman is attracted to your husband walk away as this is his problem and his faithfulness should be to God and honor to you. You can not change what their decision will be, you can only change what your actions can be. you can free yourself from the struggle of your not all you could be, by accepting who your are and loving yourself, overweight or not because the Lord is your God and not people's opinion of you.
You serve the Lord in your body and mind and heart, none of us can change another human from adultery but the one being subjected to it. They answer to the Lord for that sin which carries a greater condemnation than other sins and they are playing with eternal fire from God. Your husband being a minister should know this and above all sins this one should be first on his mind not to do.
I would put away the worrying and remind him of the consequences of sin these women will entice him with ministering to them and to stay strong and pray for him asking God to give him strength in this ordeal. Pick yourself up and go forth in God's words living it and realize you are doing all you are required by God and the rest lies upon your husband to not sin and free yourself from all this guilt of being overweight it is just Satan trying to weaken you so that you are incompetent in your walk with God.
Love you sister.
Vickie